Rise Above Rejection
How many times in your life have you been told NO, been broken up with, or let go from a job? The sting of these experiences can be a big hit to our fragile egos.
Recently I had a strange number of situations occur that we would call rejection. Last-minute date cancellations, a side gig that ended abruptly, a long-standing friendship that quickly dissolved when I asked for more in the relationship.
It was hard. It was a lot to process. My ego was bruised and I asked questions like “What does this mean about me??”
But I wanted to take this swirl of unfortunate events as an opportunity to look at this thing called rejection and see if I could understand it differently. I gave myself time to grieve and let go of what was. I looked closely and in the process, noticed that something bigger was happening. I saw that there were incompatibilities between these people and me, that the things they wanted were not quite matching up with what I wanted. Their needs were different from mine and we were veering off of our once parallel tracks, shifting now in new directions. I realized that it would be unwise to force something that clearly was no longer aligned and that the wisest thing to do would be to let go and go looking for opportunities and people that did match up to where I’m heading and what I want out of life.
Of course, rejection can trigger thoughts like “I’m not enough” and questions like “why isn’t this person choosing me?”
But I think there’s a different way to look at it. A way that says that actually, you ARE enough and that there are plenty of people out there waiting to choose you. It’s a way that says you have it within you to boldly let go and trust that your right match - whether a new friend, a new career or a new partner - is just ahead waiting for you to find them.
So the next time you find yourself feeling kicked to the curb, I encourage you to examine what you want. And consider that there is MORE, that you are worthy of it, and that you might just be redirected to something that suits you better and fits oh-so-perfectly like a glove.
